Ways to manage Life Transitions.
A change could be good.
You don’t have to go through transition and feel down.
You can go through life transitions with your head up empowered, open for the unknown with the right support.
We used to a comfortable rhythm of daily life, we certain and familiar, so sudden change is the last thing we want in life. We wish to live life on our terms and control what affects us, but that’s not always the case and involves life wishes that not corresponding with us. And suddenly we face the transition or a major transition. -You moved to a new location, you got new responsibilities at work and have a title that drastically affects your set life schedule.
-You might find yourself going through a family emotional rollercoaster, sudden death or unexpected wedding proposal to your child, business revenue jump or project which could affect your income.
Dealing with some of these transitions could be hard.
Why?
Any significant transition makes most people feel fearful and anxious, angry and confused, numb and full of self-doubt. We simply get stuck! We are anxious when our lives are disrupted and get uncertain. Since the future may now be filled with questions, it is normal to feel afraid.
Where is it coming from?
Between accept the change and acknowledging that we need to let go of the past, accept, begin to feel hopeful about the future, develop an optimistic view and current unclear transitional present we feel and we have a gap. Fears of uncontrollable circumstances and the process not always going on order. People usually move through the process in different ways, often cycling back and forth among the stages.
Let’s have a dialog here:
What are you afraid to accept since life situation has changed?
What the worst could happen when you feel uncomfortable?
By answering -ask yourself again:-“ And what worst about that?”. Continue asking yourself until you get to the point where the word “worst” does not affect you anymore.
What do you believe in and in which way this fear could bring you closer to where you heading with your goals?
What will help you to face and acknowledge feelings of fear and anxiety?
Being paralyzed by a sudden change you give all power to your feelings which, by the way withing you can control, that's why they are your feelings.
What you can gain out of it?
There is always “two-ways street”. Think about what you have learned from other life transitions. Recall the stages you went through, and identify what you gained and learned from each experience. There is always something and those can be your gifts of the transition process: to learn more about yourself and what makes you happy and fulfilled.
How could you take care of yourself?
While we have a full focus on the stressful transition we forgot about ourselves. Are you getting plenty of rest, exercise, eat well?
Who got your back? Who is your support team thought this time?
Family, friends, professionals, mentors. A time of transition is also a time to seek the support of mental health, life coach professionals. He or she can guide you through the transition process so you could get to the desired stage through a safe and supportive environment.
What keep you consistent?
Have routine, those small things you have control over to do what you like, set as much time as you want. Self-discipline halo gains a sense of power. Keep track of your accomplishments.
Treating the Symptom of a transition
instead of its cause.
On the positive side, these transitions give us a chance to learn about our strengths and to explore what we want out of life. This time of reflection can result in a sense of renewal, stability, and a new beginning.
You may not be seeking for transition, but when it seeks you, take it and discover what it has to say and what it wants yo improve.